Marriage in Friuli

It was habit, in view of marriage by the husband, go home with the mediator of "her" to contract the dowry. Sometimes could happen that the father of one of the two will oppose the marriage because the family considers the applicant does not meet its aspirations ... economic.

In this case two were the solutions: Scappare far along, or leave forever.

Rare! Typically, negotiations are successfully closed, a mortar fired into the air announcing what.

Hurry, these formalities are fixed the wedding day: tradition and convenience for you chose on Saturday. Therefore already the previous Thursday began preparations, governed by a specific rituale.
Begins with the transport of "bala" a kind of support on a cart pulled by oxen. This was also the moment when the groom with his friends celebrating the farewell to celibacy, the bride task was to prepare for the friends of the bridegroom "struc" which replaced the confetti. Also on this occasion, the groom paid the "stivanka" to the youth of the country, because otherwise we would not have allowed the transport of bala. The average charge stivanka was the equivalent of fifty liters of wine. If they were engaged in different countries, each paying the stivanka to the youth of their country.
Followed the gifts between the two pledged. He gave her the "kurdon" (the golden cord, sometimes passed from mother to child). Sometimes together with kurdon had also donated a large red ribbon, with which, on the day of the wedding, she would belt to life was a kind of charm against the possible bleeding of the first birth.
On Friday, the eve of the wedding rite, both went to confession, the priest gave the bride a new white napkin.
For what concerns the home of the bride's sister or best friend was going to settle the nuptial bed, to decorate the bedroom. Typically, the promised, it gave the best room of the house. On the wall above the bed, had attacked a sacred: The Holy Family or the Virgin Mary and Jesus separated in the direction of their pillows.

Here the wedding day.

The bride was helped by friends to dress, while her husband was by himself. When the groom came to take it, sometimes jokingly, she was hidden in a room with other women that prevented the husband from entering. At this point, the groom, according to the game, describing it asked the girl, but say the name. Her friends, pretended not to understand: one by one out of the room under his eyes, last appeared for the bride who, taken under the arm husband, s'incamminava, with the result, towards the church.

Followed the ceremony.

Then departed for the honeymoon that lasted several hours. In return, the bride made her entrance into its new home for lunch solemn. The mother-in-law daughter-in-law waited on the door and delivered the "meskul" (mixed) and "Medlar" (broom).

Followed, of course, lunch at the wedding which included more close relatives and friends.
All male guests wore a success story, and the bridegroom was a bundle wrapped by "you". Even women, but only if unmarried, had flowers from her hair.
On that day does not eat cheese, but soup, pasta chicken or turkey. There was no cake, but the struke and gubana. The day closed with the dance festival. At bedtime the family offered the keys to the wife because closed the door before ascending the stairs outside.
Sunday hereafter acquired relatives accompanied the entry to marry. This served as a public presentation is as a demonstration of good agreement. The following Monday, she put in place his things, then began his working life in the new family. For eight days, the bride was not quite back to where his father was born and lived until the day of marriage, otherwise people would have thought that was not faithful to her husband and that ultimately it ran away from him.
Finally, the first celebration of Easter - after the wedding - the mother of the bride was the daughter personally lead the "pogaza" or "zegnanca" which consisted of a basket containing bread blessed, dishes, cutlery, etc..

Officially, everything was finished here, but now truly began to understand that life, mutual help, love true that resulted in silent activity, in which new life is lit in a love purified in its emphasis outside, but pure and profound and only death, and perhaps even death, could eliminate.